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This is a post about sex (and possibly romance) with youthful females. Let’s get this out of the way up front – when I talk about young girls I mean girls at or above the age of consent. Girls below that age are children, not sexual objects.
But one of the reasons the reason I came to live in Thailand is that, although I keep growing older, it’s possible for the girls that I cuddle with to remain the same age. For me, that means a range that runs from about 19 to a shade over 30 years old.
But there’s often a huge difference between a girl who is, say 20, and one who is 29, and – at least where ladies of negotiable virtue are involved – the rules that apply to fine wine don’t necessarily apply here. In other words, ladies of the night don’t necessarily get better with age.
The reasons are numerous and obvious. On the physical front, they stay up late at night, have interrupted sleep patterns, and they typically drink & smoke too much. They may also add a number of other drugs to the mix. Their bodies take a beating.
On the emotional front, the problems start with the damage done by choosing to begin working in their chosen profession, and are compounded over time as nearly any relationship attachment that they form is short lived, and they are constantly disappointed and rejected.
As these girls get older they generally get harder inside and outside. Soon enough, like sharks, they are focused only on constant movement and devouring anything in their path. As sharks become efficient eating machines, Thai bar girls become efficient money collecting machines.
By the time a girl gets to this stage, I really don’t want to know her. I had sex with three Thai girls last week. They were 19, 23 and 24 years old and they all had great attitudes and smiling faces. This is a pretty typical week for me living in here in Thailand.
I may have simply been lucky, but when I first came to Thailand on holiday; the girls I hooked up with tended to be fresh and young. They weren’t the sharks that so many men encounter, but typically girls who had only been working in the bar scene for a few weeks or months. In fact, I met one girl on her first day working in the bar!
But I don’t think it was luck. I think that I knew a lot about people when I came here; two decades of sales and management jobs gave me a good ‘nose’ for people.
I ended up meeting a number of relatively innocent young women who made me thrilled to be alive. We spent plenty of time doing things together – shopping, movies, visits to the park and the beach, as well as ten-pin bowling and dancing – that made me really enjoy life. And, inevitably, there was the sex – sex that made me feel a return to my youth as I caressed the soft warm skin and looked into the beautiful faces of lovely young girls.
It was that great set of experiences as a holiday-maker that made me want to move here to get that treatment full time.
So I spend a lot of my effort now looking for young girls – the ones with a fresh outlook and a good attitude who are likely to give me the enjoyable, positive experience that enticed me to move to Thailand in the first place.
The key to happiness, for me, is finding that constant supply of young girls; the ones that haven’t been spoiled by a decade of disappointments and abuse.
So, what do I look for? What tips can I share about finding the young girls – the ones that will bring a breath of fresh air into your life?
Ten tips for finding a fresh young bar girl in Thailand
What follows is a list of guidelines that may help you find the gem that you’re looking for among so many lumps of coal. (One caveat: many men prefer the older gals, who may be more aggressive and experienced. If that’s you, then you’ve already read too far. The older ladies can be great, but these tips are for finding their younger sisters that turn me on.)
#1 Hair extensions
During their grammar school and high school years Thai girls are forced to keep their hair in a very short ‘bob’ that completely exposes their neck. Most bar girls have long hair, which is generally preferred by the men they are entertaining. This creates a conflict for 19 and 20 year-olds who may have left school only recently.
It takes a long time to grow very short hair halfway down their back, so these young girls usually short-cut the process by getting hair extensions.
To make extensions work, the girls usually need to get a certain layered hair style that hides the extensions. With a little practice you can become adept at spotting this hair style. If you’re not sure, you have two choices for checking. Buy her a drink, and as she’s sitting next to you, run your fingers through her hair around her neck line. If she’s got ‘em, you’ll feel ‘em.
The other option is to simply ask her. She’ll probably know the English word ‘extensions’ but if she doesn’t the Thai word is taw pom.
#2 English Language
Bar girls learn English, and they learn it fast. At least they learn a form of English that probably lacks a lot of grammatical formation but is understandable to the average bar customer.
A girl who doesn’t speak English, or who speaks so little that it’s difficult to communicate with her is very likely new on the scene.
#3 Playing Pool
If you like to play pool and the girl you are scoping out plays better than you do, this is a strong indication that she’s been around the bar scene for a long time. Most Thai girls who don’t work in bars don’t spend a lot of time shooting pool, and it’s a game that requires a fair bit of practice to master.
Of course, even seasoned bar girls may not know how to shoot pool, so the venue where you meet them may also be a factor.
If you meet her in a pool bar and she plays poorly or not at all, this is an indicator that she hasn’t been around long enough to develop her skills. Thai girls who hang around pool bars all day spend hours a day playing. They often lack a delicate touch, shooting straight and hard, but they know how to handle a cue.
#4 Smiles, laughter and fun
Anyone can smile and a girl whose been working in the bar for years still knows that she usually has to smile at a customer to attract him.
But when a girl seems to genuinely be having a good time – not just going through the motions – then whether she’s new to the scene or more experienced, it’s likely you’ll enjoy spending time with her.
Spot the girl who is playful with her friends, who is making jokes and laughing. When she’s with you, if she looks bored with the same old routine, then it’s an indication that you may have a girl who’s been there and done that a bit too much.
#5 Skin & Eyes
As much as the light allows, I try to see a girl up close and see the condition of her skin and eyes. Years of drinking alcohol and being exposed to cigarettes take a toll on the skin, making it dry and causing wrinkles.
A girl who has a yellowish tinge to here eyes may have a number of problems.
A girl who has very clear, unlined and elastic skin, with clear shiny eyes is more likely to be fresh on the scene than a girl with the opposite traits.
#6 Clothes
Thai culture teaches modesty in dress that hasn’t been seen in most western countries in 4 or 5 decades. Bar girls have to overcome a lifetime of training to wear tight-fitting clothes with spaghetti-string straps and revealing cuts.
Of course, one of the easiest things for her best friend to help her fix is wardrobe. A thousand baht spent wisely can provide a bar girl with the clothes she needs for her first week in the bar. So the key here isn’t to look for the girl who is dressed like a Mennonite, but to identify girls who may still feel uncomfortable in the clothes of a bar girl, or who looks like she’s about to topple off her heels.
#7 Callouses
Most girls working in Bangkok bars come from Isaan, and most of these girls spent a lifetime planting and harvesting rice before moving to Bangkok to work in the bar.
You may be surprised to hold hands with a bar girl and feel hard callouses on her hand and fingers. She’s fresh off the farm. She’ll be using lotion every day to soften her hands, but it will take weeks, and maybe months before she gets the very soft hands that go with her profession.
#8 New face
This may apply only to expats who live here in Thailand, but if you come to town frequently and return often to the same bars, it may have some relevance.
Basically, keep a lookout for new faces. Bar girls tend to lack ambition and creativity, and they stay close to their best friends. This leads to a lot of stability among the girls in a specific bar. It usually takes some kind of ruction to create a lot of staff turnover in a short time, so if you visit a bar regularly (even if it’s only once every month or two) you’re very likely to spot a new face in the bar.
Of course, just because a girl is new in the bar doesn’t mean that she is new to the bar scene, but a new face is always a red flag to check the girl out.
#9 Tattoos
There’s a significant correlation between tattoos and bar girls. The longer a girl has been working in the bar, the more likely she is to have one or more tattoos.
I’d say that most girls will make the decision to get their first tattoo while they are drunk.
I’ve seen young girls with tattoos and I’ve seen hardened long-term bar girls without them, but in general tattoos are an indicator that a girl’s been around a bit. Increase points if she has multiple tattoos or very large tattoos.
By no means am I saying to avoid girls with tattoos — I’ve had some great times with tattooed girls, but all things being equal, it’s an indicator that the girl isn’t new to the scene.
#10 The mirror
This is primarily a go go dancer indicator, though it may have a bit of crossover use.
Most go go dancers spend a lot of time looking in the mirror watching themselves dance. They are constantly fixing their hair and making small adjustments to make themselves look better. They figured out long ago that there’s not much to see looking at the punters in the audience.
The best go go girls will make a lot of eye contact with punters as they dance, realizing that they are, in fact, marketing themselves to their customers. These girls will look practiced and comfortable.
The new girls will look different. No polished confidence, and if they are looking in the mirror, they aren’t fixing their hair, they are figuring out what they look like onstage. They are practicing how to move, and they may often interrupt their dancing, and stay very close to the friend who brought them into the bar to work. They may even giggle a lot. They may be using the mirror to look at the men in the audience rather than at themselves, still embarrassed to make direct eye contact.
Summary
Of course, none of these indicators alone will identify the fresh young girls, but taken together they can help you pick out the newer, younger, fresher girls who haven’t yet become hardened bar girls.
Did you meet a girl who you’ve never seen in the bar before? She speaks very little English, can’t play pool, has hair extensions and callouses on her hands? There’s a good chance that she’s been in the bar a matter of days or weeks.
You spotted a go go dancer who has no tattoos and hasn’t yet seemed to become totally self-absorbed with herself in the mirror? When you talk to her she knows only a few words and sentences in English? You’ve probably found a fresh one.
You’re in the beer bar. Your girl speaks very good English and walks with a confident air. She has long beautiful hair that nearly reaches her waist, and is wearing a sexy skin tight top and 3-inch heels. It’s easy to see the tattoo on her right shoulder blade, and when you ask she tells you that she has one more that you might be able to see later. You invite her to shoot pool and she expertly racks the balls and makes her first three shots. You are in the presence of an experienced and professional bar girl.
Everyone has different taste in women. Personally, I like petite girls. I don’t like large breasts, especially if they are enhanced. The first thing I look at is a girl’s teeth; I think straight healthy teeth are a turn on.
You may prefer the experienced bar girl with multiple tattoos and piercings, who will go shot-for-shot with you when you buy a bottle of tequila, then drag you to the hotel for an afternoon of sweaty passion. If you do, the checklist above will do nothing to help you.
If you are like me, and you prefer the smiles, good attitudes and relaxed atmosphere that comes with spending time with a young bar girl then I hope these tips help you find her.
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6 responses so far
July 10th, 2008 at 9:48 pm
Thanks for clarifying that children are not sexual objects!!!!!!!!!
July 18th, 2008 at 3:16 am
trudie: use a little common sense rather than sarcasm as your only tool. The first paragraph is intended to show up on search engines such as Google so people know the general topic of the post. With a title of “Finding Fresh Young Girls” it seemed prudent to clarify things a bit. (I would have thought three exclamation points in your comment would have been enough)
July 19th, 2008 at 12:27 am
It’s way easier to find fresh young birds in Bangkok than you may think. And it ain’t got to be in go-go bars either.
Visit those bars in Ekamai/Thonglor and you’ll find loads of and loads of local girls that are not only young but also very fit indeed!
Great post, werewolf - thanks for sharing.
July 19th, 2008 at 8:24 am
Tom, what bars. Any names or circa whereabouts. I thought Thonglor was mainly a japanese hangout.
July 28th, 2008 at 3:27 am
Ignore Trudie..Just hard up.
September 11th, 2008 at 8:20 pm
Contrary to being hard up I have actually had loads of attention in Bangkok - I get asked out a good few times a day - seriously!! I was quite surprised myself to be honest - I suppose the Thai men are pretty keen on farangs as well!! I’m made to feel like the most beautiful woman alive sometimes - I am not! - but I am attractive and it is quite nice to feel like I am a woman in a city geared towards men. Pretty was the first word I learnt in Thai! I have also met two lovely Western men since I’ve been here - less than 6 months - and it has been great fun! And guess what boys - I have paid my way but I certainly haven’t paid for the sex.