Another aspect of it is that they take you out of your element. Most of these marriages and long-term scams happen when the couple have known each other in real life (as in seeing each other – no webcam or chat) for less than a month. They come over on a 2 week holiday, fall in love, come back for another 2 week holiday 3 or 4 months later and all of a sudden she’s steering the conversation around to wedding bells.

Of course, since our poor victim doesn’t have many (or any) options for companionship back home and she’s heavily implying that this is the only way for her to be sure he’s serious about her or that she might have to continue shopping unless he’s willing to take her off the market he caves in and agrees.

On his next trip out here he’s whisked away into the heart of Issan and surrounded by all of her friends and family. Because he’s spent all of a month in Thailand he has no friends here and nobody to shake some sense into him. He’s told everything she tells him is Thai culture and that it would be a huge loss of face for her family if he backed out on anything at this point. If she says her sin sod is 1,000,000 baht the guy either has to pay or risk insulting her, her family, and the village who will all be lobbying him that this is normal in Thailand.

Come to think of it . . . this sounds a hell of a lot like a shady time share tactic. Get the sucker on your home court and then hard sell them until they relent and say okay to whatever you’re proposing. Don’t get them time to check with a spouse or a lawyer or the financial planner . . . just sign. If you can’t put ink on paper then you’re weak and don’t have the balls to make a decision.

Hmmm . . . starting to sound familiar?

One of the reasons why I think most of my friends have never been taken for a big ride like this is that it’s customary to bring your girl around to meet your friends and their wives/gf’s. Believe me, if the girl doesn’t smell right your friends wives/gf’s will be jabbering into the ear of their man and he’ll give you the lowdown.

One of my tests is to bring girls I’m starting to get even remotely serious about to hang out with my friends. Then I look at which girls she gravitates towards while I’m chatting with the guys. Is she naturally taken in by the party girls? What about the traditional girls? Maybe she strikes it up naturally with the ambitious middle managers. I think this tells you far more about her than one’s own biased eyes will. People hang out with like people.

So, my advice to anyone who is thinking about any sort of serious relationship in Thailand is to never commit to someone unless friends or family members have met her and are willing to give you honest feedback. They’re not tainted by being smitten with her so they’re going to see much more than you do.

My second piece of advice is to never go up to the heart of Isaan to do the family thing alone. Pre-negotiate everything. Get a ballpark as to what the sin sod is going to be. Find out your exact itinerary while you’re up there so surprise engagement parties aren’t planned that you’re expected to pay for, etc.

And try to bring a friend with you. They can serve as a perfect excuse to extricate yourself from any situation that wasn’t part of the itinerary. I know guys will want to spend their time with their honey but you and your friend should book a hotel either in the same village or the next closest one where they have a hotel. You want a base of operations so if things start going sideways you can always claim you need to go back to the hotel with your friend. Or you can object to changes to the itinerary because your friend has to go back to the hotel.

Most importantly though, your friend will be there to provide a moral support if you’re being put into a tough situation and can tell you that they’re taking the piss out of you. He can support your decision to walk away rather than allow yourself to be sucked into a bad marriage.

I know some of that advice sounds rather untrusting but then again, I would never try to marry a girl I’ve only seen face-to-face for a month. I think being careful if you don’t know someone that well is better than finding out the hard way.

Second, not just kindness but getting into men’s weaknesses, let’s talk about sensations. One gives you a mind blowing sex, romance, sweetness and the “care” one hasn’t had ever in his entire life and when he came to a certain place he had it all perhaps everyday and everynight, and he believes it’s paradise and it never ends not minding he has been lured by his predator.Come to think of it, don’t you know they are fully aware of your weaknesses? and yes to get to your wallet? some people who are into this kind of doing are just extremely good at it, much as they’ve been doing the same thing over and over.

Third, the farang isn’t honest enough that he doesn’t have much affordability. Maybe at some point in time he tried to impress the girl and leading her to believe that he has all the money in the world to support her capriciousness. Now who’s to blame? I’m sure if the scammers know ahead that you are almost a broke (maybe an inch away), one won’t ever dare come close to you, what for?

Fourth, the farang got so fascinated on her beauty not knowing that beauty enhancement here is all over the place as dimples just costv 6k or less, nose lift not over 10K and breast implants not over 30k. Go check Thai beauty magazines so you’d know what I am talking about, don’t ever go to those that caters to farangs, their prices are way too much, they get foreign customers or some locals who have married some wealthy farangs ( no, not rich Thais (thai couple)go to Japan not here). Take note, I even heard one in Nawamin area that there’s a clinic there asking 3k only for a nose job. And by the way, weight loss control pills are available anywhere, you may want to check yanhee it costs less that 800 baht for a month supply. There are more hospitals offering weight control programs. That’s the best way to maintain the shape especially the 23-inch-waistline with NO effort. No wonder they’re slim and sexy. Imagine and then check it yourself.

Fifth, as Ruai stated. Some farangs get what they deserve. If they are not being too hasty and at least use their heads not their joysticks they wouldn’t fall in any trap or scam, good thing if they realize their fate earlier or else they still end up deadly broke and blame all the girls in Thailand of their stupidity and ignorance.

So why do farangs fall for scams? They themeselves can answer that.

What guy who wasn’t desperate for sex and/or love would do something that retarded? I’ve been dating women in Thailand for 6 or 7 years now and I’ve yet to buy a single home for anyone. And I have tons of friends and yet I know of not a single one who has been duped into buying a house or spending obscene amounts of money only to get dumped.

Sure, I’ve read tons of stories about it happening to other people but every story told has one thing in common . . . the guy was thinking with his dick and not his head.

And you are a really f’d up individual if you’re expecting to get any pats on the back for promising to marry girls and then dumping them. Don’t get me wrong, butterfly all you want but lying to girls like that puts you in scumbag territory.

I really hope you don’t find out the hard way that Thai women have a way of dealing with guys like you too. All you need is one slightly unbalanced girl to find out that many Thai women take love and marriage very seriously. Don’t be surprised if you wake up minus your dick or come home and find your girlfriend brandishing a knife and threatening to kill either you or her (or possibly both). Or she may decide to rat you out to the police or immigration for a real or imagined crime.

You think you’re smart but you’re actually very, very stupid. I would much rather lose money than dying or spending a few years in the Thai monkey house.

I’m not really sure what all of your ranting about colonialism is about as Thailand was never a colony but your comments about many of the people who end up here are straight on.

I have read threads in this famous forum in Thailand and I was so surprised that it blocks topics as related to scams of course being farangs as the victims. It helps though for some who are in troubles, yes, after the damage has done.

Anyway, guess Farangs shouldn’t defend on others, perhaps this isn’t where help comes in handy, it’s hard, but should take lessons in a lot of ways, even the hard ways. If he’s clever enough he should let himself informed and come here with open eyes and ears.

Thailand is beautiful as what makes it attractive to tourists, the same way as the tourist’s coming is a business as well for those who wish to get a quick cash out of them.

There is a sucker born every minute. Thai girls have mastered the art of playing with your feeling to get you hooked about their little village and bufalos, and their family support and fidelity and love and the list goes on and on. The minute, you get on that plane back home, you start sending her money and you won’t be her last. She has a million other customers like you.

Thank god I have never been suckered into any of this. This is all from observation and reading stories about those who lost their livelihood to these girls. It’s a double-edge sword. If it weren’t for the foreigners, they will still be in rice fields. Yet, it is the foreigners that corrupted their souls and their way of life.

The airports closed for one week and their economy came to a stand still. I had hoped that this would be a learning lesson for them to be nicer and gentler and more caring and bring that genuine smile back. But, my hopes were dashed when everything went back to the way it was.

I used to be the biggest promoter of Thailand and Thai people and had nothing other than nice things to say about them. Today, it is not the case. Unfortunately, there will always be millions of tourists pouring in every year yet corrupting them even more. Thai people used to take time and pause, light an incense and a candle and worship and “Wei” and offer respect to one another. I used to admire them for that. Look around you today. Do you notice any of that?