I don’t think That women as a whole are bad people, they just do things differently. For instance I occasionally have a rub and a tug in a local massage establishment in the south of England and three of the girls are from Issan. Two of them coincidentally worked for a friend of mine who has a bar on Soi 8 in Pattaya. When the girls almost always inevitably separate from their farang husband they go into what they know best and that is the sex trade, hence why they are working in a massage parlour.

The girl in the TV clip saw a chance to earn extra money for her family and went ahead, we all know money is number one for these girls. These girls are great holiday companions and short time playthings but as for a long term relationship, forget it.

Do a Google search for “lying their lips are moving”

After a couple of failed relationships here I’ve pretty given up on the idea of a long term relationship with a Thai lady. Mainly because of the language, cultural differences and, as you say, their obligations to their families. I don’t believe in the idea of Sin Sod anyway. I’d rather use the money as a deposit on a condo; there’s going to be a better rate of return on it. The chances of meeting and marrying a wealthy Thai women are almost nil and I’m not interested in the idea of providing for a poor girl from the Nth East.

When you live here long enough it becomes fairly ho-hum anyway. One starts to live a normal sort of life which isn’t based on chasing after the women here. I’m quite happy hangin’ out on the beach in Phuket, or Samui, and going surfing. If one wants a bit of female companionship, it’s easy enough to find chai mai?

Very good post with many good points to take note of and just reinforces what I said about the foolish situations that many guys who, as you say, fall in love with some girl, with a questionable background, within a very short time frame after arriving in Thailand.

If you meet a Thai lady that has a low level of education, is from a rural background and who doesn’t appear to have a real job, the odds that she’s looking for some kind of financial leg up in life are fairly high. How could it be anything else but this?

There are many nice Thai ladies out there who are good relationship material. I see them on the BTS every morning on their way to work. Yes, they’ve got real jobs and they have pride in themselves and their ability to be fainancially self supporting. Unfortunately, many farang seem to believe that the ideal Thai lady, for a relationship, can be found down at Soi Cowboy or Nana Plaza. As Kinitpa said on, another thread, if you end up in a relationship with a lady with a of questionable background, and it all goes pear shaped, you’ve got no one to blame but yourself. You set yourself up to be a victim.

I think the problem for most men is that they feel that they are good hearted people. When someone says that they are willing to look past how old or fat or ugly they are and see the real person inside it’s easy to fall for that. For many guys it might be the first time in their lives (or first time in many years) that someone has really shown them any affection.

@Bruno: Sorry, but you sound like one of those fools. To characterize all Thais just because you got scammed by one girl is in itself foolish. I love how you say that you come here many times and each time you meet a girl who you think it can end in marriage.

I find it hard to believe that on multiple occasions you have, on a short stay, met the woman of your dreams and felt like you could have a relationship that would end in marriage each time.

First off, in my personal experience both dating Thai women and having Thai friends, most girls who are actually good marriage material would be very cautious about someone who is only here for a short time. They actually want a real relationship. Many girls I know would never even date a guy who didn’t live here. One of your first danger signs should be a girl who is more than happy to have a long-distance relationship that involves you supporting her or answering all of her sick buffalo cash requests.

Second, I don’t know about you but personally I don’t put a girl into the “this could end in a happy marriage” category after even a month or two. I might decide she is someone I want to get serious with and see where the relationship goes but I’m not thinking about paying any sin sod just yet. I don’t know, I’ve just been around long enough that I really don’t believe in love at first sight. I’ve been in far too many relationships (with both farang and Thai women) to think that I can really know them without going through some difficult times with them. I’m not talking about tragedies or anything but you really can tell a lot about where a relationship is going via how people handle conflicts.

So right off the bat I have to assume that the girls you are meeting aren’t really looking for a real relationship. They’re looking for support. And the fact that you can’t tell the difference is what tells me that you’re a fool.