Interracial relationships involving Thai women and foreign men are about as easy to spot on the streets of Bangkok as the ubiquitous carts selling noodle soup. Why do many Thai ladies choose to pass over Thai guys and date white men from halfway around the world? After all, most foreigners don’t speak much Thai, know all that much about the culture, and often live thousands of miles away. Are Thai women genuinely more attracted to foreigners, or is it all about the money?
In fact, there are many possible reasons why a Thai lady might choose to date a foreigner. Four of the most common reasons are money, fidelity, worldliness, and just plain physical chemistry. Without implying that all interracial relationships are motivated by one of the above reasons alone, they serve as a useful starting point to understand some of the different “types” of Thai ladies that prefer dating white guys.
A. Miss Gold-Digger
Her reason for dating foreigners: Money, cars, jewelry, real estate.
Her profile: She might be a poor village girl with a large, dysfunctional family she needs to support, or a middle-class Bangkok girl who just needs to have the latest brand name fashion handbag or mobile phone. Either way, she’s attractive and knows it.
Her target: An older, wealthy, and generous guy who knows the value of being with an attractive younger girl and isn’t shy about paying for it. She doesn’t mind a one-night stand as long as its well-compensated, but her goal is to find a guy who will be her steady ‘sponsor’ for a few months or years – or at least until she finds an even better prospect.
How to spot her: Asks you questions about your income or assets, wears expensive jewelry or clothes despite having a low-paying job (or none at all).
Where to find her: Shaking her booty at a go-go bar, or hunting for older guys on the internet.
How to win her over: Take her out for a movie with VIP seats, followed by a shopping trip at the Emporium.
B. Miss Broken Heart
Her reason for dating foreigners: Fidelity. The bad reputation of many (mostly lower class) Thai guys for womanizing, drinking whiskey, and gambling.
Her profile: She fell in love at a young age with someone from her hometown, maybe got pregnant and then abandoned with a young child the moment her boyfriend found another girl. Moved to Bangkok to work and send money to her relatives upcountry, who are looking after her child.
Her target: A decent, loyal, caring foreigner who is willing to settle down in Thailand and support her and her child. In return, she’s prepared to be a loyal, caring, and dutiful wife. She’s willing to date someone substantially older than her, as long as she’s convinced he’ll be by her side for the long haul.
How to spot her: Often is a single mother, complains about Thai guys being “no good”, looking for a guy for marriage.
Where to find her: On the internet, or perhaps even serving drinks at a hostess bar along a quiet soi.
How to win her over: Don’t try to get her into bed on the first date, show interest in her child(ren).
C. Miss Misunderstood
Her reason for dating foreigners: Worldly, respects women as equal partners.
Her profile: She’s a middle-class or upper-class Thai lady who studied at a good university, maybe even lived abroad. She’s frustrated at dating Thai guys who expect her to be pretty, cute, and devoid of personality, and who would be shocked if she dared to express an opinion about, well, anything. Has a good job and is economically self-sufficient.
Her target: An attractive, educated foreign man from an equivalent social class who treats her as an equal, respects her thoughts, and cares about her goals and aspirations. Prefers a long term relationship over a short fling.
How to spot her: Speaks fluent English, not shy about expressing an opinion, fashionable dressed.
Where to find her: Trendy yuppie bar or café.
How to win her over: Be intelligent, well dressed, and respectful. Don’t speak to her in pigeon English, she probably speaks better English than you do. Indicate your level of education and career goals without bragging about how much money you make. Show an interest in her personality.
D. Miss Farang Crazy
Her reason for dating foreigners: All about finding a cute piece of white meat.
Her profile: She’s a girl in her lower-20’s who probably had a huge crush on David Beckham a few years back, and is on the hunt for any guy who vaguely resembles him. Money isn’t her priority, as she comes from a middle-class family or already has an older ‘sponsor’.
Her target: An attractive, white guy of a similar age with sex appeal for a one night stand or for a summer fling.
How to spot her: Ignores everyone who doesn’t fit her target.
Where to find her: Trawling the backpacker bars of Khao San Road, or anywhere else where young foreigners hang out and drink.
How to win her over: Dress like a teen idol, gel your hair into the latest style, and practice your dance moves because this girl is all about the physical. Don’t even bother if you’re over, say, 30.
Conclusion
Next time you see a interracial couple on the streets of Bangkok, don’t jump to any conclusions. Thai women are a mixed bunch, and may date foreigners for all sorts of reasons. If you’re a foreign guy interested in dating a Thai girl, you might want to reflect on what you bring to the table – and what kind of lady is likely to fall for you. Will you end up living a quiet life with a village girl in house nestled amidst rice fields? Enjoying a string of flings with girls you met on Khao San? Buying a condo and car for a knockout showgirl who ditches you when the funds run dry? Always keep her motivations for dating you in mind, and you’ll be sure to enjoy great times with the ladies in Thailand.
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Finally, a farang / Thai girl post that isn’t racist!
Even as a Thai person, I agree with what you wrote.
Thai girls are not all the same. Some like farangs, for various reasons. And some like Thais. Whatever – enjoy what you have!
@Joe: What have you found racist about other posts? I ask that seriously because if what us guys are saying is racist then we would appreciate knowing your view so we can be less offensive.
Hey mods….this article just appeared on the website shouldn’t it be at the top of the page? :p
I think i’ve dated each type of girl in your story. The best girls are the ones who are educated and just want to have some quick fun, there not the ones you want to bed all the time usually just for a night or two, or at least until they go back to school
Danny.Nomad
You are either:
1. A bitter woman writing under a pseudonym…. realize you are undesired by other men because of your doing. Some of these Thai girls are simply attracted to guys; don’t be jealous. You have power over men, and you know it’s wrong, and you hate it. Start looking appealing and start dating real men.
2. A gay fellow who despises straight men. Stop being angry at men. Your real beef is with God.
3. A wimpy hetero guy who thinks standing up for women will get him more women. Be a man; stop being a wanna bitch.
Please don’t forget about us farang dam. Lets call my parties in Bangkok………Black Thai events(like black tie). Yeah I know its corny.
JJ
Sean I can assure you that I am none of the above. I am not particularly interested in “standing up for women”. What I am interested in is figuring girls out. If you’ve seen how stunning some of the girls I’ve dated are, you might say I’ve been doing a pretty damn good job at it.
I believe you have only skimmed the top off a very deep subject here. However, I no longer subscribe to the oft touted theory that it’s all about money. And to be fair, your article doesn’t overindulge in this. Is it possible to form an ordinary, loving relationship with a Thai woman who may be all, some or none of the above? Of course it is. As well as examining her motivations for dating you, take a good look at your motivations for dating her.
I was VERY HAPPILY married to my husband of 18 years. He we t to Thialand on a buisness trip with a coworker who was much younger and had no moral standards. My husband was a good man, went to Church and Sunday School every week. He coached our young chdrens soccer teams. In all we had dTwd and been married 22 years. We had a wondef life together. He spent his entire week while not working with a 21 year old prostitute. My husband was a 35 year old man at the time. We are now divorcing. When I confronted him about the prostitute necause I found an ongoing onli Romance between him ans “Sai”, his prostitute, he becAme Defensive, Embarrassed, Sad and violent. He was placed I’m jail for 3 days for assatimg me. He has been placed under a 61 day emergency protective order, and can not see me or the chuldren at all. He has missed their elementary school program. He will miss their end of the yeAr award program
. Where his daughter is expected to be awarded the principle award for the 4rh year in a row. He will so miss their Baptism, which is scheduled for the beginning of June. I really hope FUCKING that gold digging Prostitute-Bar Girl that was barely 21 years old was worth it. He has been dismissed from the board of directors from our cities local soccer association, he is being investigated by the state soccer association. He can never coach soccer or be a part of the
soccer association again because of his actions….. Fucking a PROSTITUTE from Thaighland, and as Resut beating the crap out of his wife because of his embarassment and shame app brought on by his poor judgement and the abhorrent lifestyle these shamefule women choose to live!!
when ur stock is low someplace, you make a move to another where your stock is high, if you have to go to thailand to get laid and exploit poor bar girls from up country ur just a loser, spin it however you want, but theres a reason these guys don’t meet the higher class thai girls in thailand, because the girls are higher class.these men are often angry mysognists who believe that feminism and women’s rights have ruined their chances in the west. so they got to places like thailand, vietnam and cambodia, where their choices in women are usually bar girls. no shot with decent women , most of them too embarrased to be caught with a farang, doesnt want others to see her as a prostitute lol. pathetic.
No @ pee sao luk. Some men are just attracted to asian women. The caramel skin, the dark hair and eyes. There just aren’t enough of you to go around in the west. Many of the ones who live there are ‘social prostitutes’ who only date rich men, celebrities and drug dealers. Samrt men go to the source to find beutiful asian women in thier home country. You can not blame men for liking what they like. It’s your fault for being pretty, I say.
JJ
Joe Said: Finally, a farang / Thai girl post that isn’t racist!
I’m with you on that. Been here for 12 years seen it all done it all and nothing is worse than listening to some smart ass telling you how all Thai girls are the same.
I had one Thai girl tell me how her boyfiend was just an ATM machine until he lost all he had in a business deal. That same girl supported him for 2 years selling shoes on Sukhumvit until he got back on his feet.a and there still together after 7 years. There are as many bad stories about Thai girls as there are good ones but most Farang not wanting to appear soft in front of their freinds are deaf in one ear. One things for sure..if you get a good one she’ll stick by you through thick and thin. Thai girls/women are the same as women all over the world need a little bit of love, stability and security in their lives and there’s bog all wrong with that.
what the hell do beautiful thai ladies see in western men except money. i mean come on for gods sake just about all the stinking british men or rather british pricks all look the same, bold heads, fat and covered in tatoos, these are rejects from britain already known as the land of scum. they in no way would respect thai women because they beat the shit out of uk women every day.
80 per cent of brit males are retarded the other 20 are decent blokes that get tarred with the same brush as the scum when they visit thailand. the only way to know its a decent brit is to look for a full head of hair and no tatoos.
Hello, all of the comment to telling about all of Thai ladies. All of people in this world have good and bad. You can not judge just look at them out side, I mean you will look at inside them heart, kind.
Wow wat a segregation… but does it really matter wat the gals like.. cummon grow up.. in bangkok u can find someone to get laid then its no harm and aprl the thing with ure hubby is sad but the way u ruined his life ure on the firing side..
If this is how Thai girls really are, you should all do yourself a favour and visit Latin America. There are alot more women with a kind heart there, and it isn’t plagued with gold diggers like this other prostitute capital of the world seems to be.
Do you think the same men who go to thailand will have the same luck with Latin women? I am asking, I do not know.
There are gold diggers everywhere in the world it just “seems” that most men get more value/fun for their money in Thailand than Most other countries…..I theorize!
LMAO at Aprl
Your husband’s life sounds like some sort of 19th century puritanical joke. Are you guys Amish?
Sounds to me like fucking a Thai prostitute was the best that could have ever happened to him. Fuck your life. You’re gonna sit there picking up the pieces and/or finding some other sap you can tame and control. Meanwhile he’s reborn and will live the rest of his days under control of himself….not you or the bible, which is just a bunch of stories FYI.
I think one point in the discussion is still missing.
You start with “why do CUTE thai girls fall for farangs”.
In the eyes of the local thail male middle or upper class population this might be considered cute: Below 25 years, above 160cm, white skin, no tattoos, no scars,…
Now compary what is cute to quite a lot farangs: Small body, Waking up next to a different black ass every morning and so on, you have seen all the tattoos and motobike scars yourself
If definition of cute would be exactly the same, thai men would see farangs as a dating risk. But do they ever?
So maybe consider this point, that the girls just can’t make a decent middle class living when their origin and looks are mostly Isaan. Compare girls on TV first. Then spot the same in one of the major high class shopping center and check the boyfriends origin
By the way: I am okay with dating the crab. Be happy
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Steve said “80% of brit males are retarded” You’re right but the 80% you talk of certainly don’t live in Thailand” I’m a Glaswegian but I’ve lived in Thailand for 12 years been in Nana and cowboy more times than you’ve had hot dinners and could count the fights, arguments even, I’ve seen between farang on one hand. 99.99% of us expats that live hear have the same things common, we respect each other, we like girls and the last thing on our mind is whacking some poor guy the head with a beer bottle. When you can say that about your own major city wherever that may be then you can talk intil then crawl back into the hole from hence you came
What about a fifth category: “she just likes you genuinely for who you are”?
No? Those don’t exist?
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It DOES exist, as long as “who you are” has MONEY!!!!
yes money helps ..but please does any girl with half a brain anywhere want to hang out with bums without money ?
well sure they do in …yep in Oz, UK , USA etc etc
Sounds like these gals have some smarts so good on them !!!
I am a54 my thai gal is 26….
I love my gal and the baby is on the way ker -chinggggggggggggggggggg!!!