Female sex tourism in Thailand: My girlfriend had paid sex with a Thai boy

Sometimes ago I went public with a rather unusual and humiliating experience in Thailand in regard to female sex tourism. During our Thailand holidays my farang girlfriend actively looked for Thai guys and was finally bedded by a young Thai lover.

I initially intended to find out, to how many other farang males something similar happened, either if their girlfriends went alone to Thailand or they even travelled even together with their farang boyfriends, like in my case.  From the partially very abusive and insulting reactions I understood, that I probably touched a total taboo subject. Others readers doubted my experience at all. It is a “tables are turned” situation in a country, which is by some considered as a sex paradise for male Westerners only. Today, I can only conclude that my case is a real rare one, or it happens much more often but the humiliated farang males felt so demeaned, that none ever talks openly about it.

Nevertheless, I still believe that I am probably not they only farang, who had to accept to share his girl with a Thai competitor, or otherwise lose her.  Therefore I try again to start a discussion on this taboo subject and hope for some more serious and honest replies:  As a student from Germany I visited Thailand together with my girlfriend some
years ago for the first time. Claudia and I were together for three years and she never cheated on me nor did I on her. She is a good looking girl and rather conservative minded. But already during our initial visit I recognized how much she was fascinated by young athletic Thai guys. On the other hand she became extremely jealous when I dared to have a quick look at Thai girls or any other females.

However, probably women’s sexuality must be stronger than a conservative mind set: During our second visit she admitted having sexual fantasies about Thai guys, which I had already suspected for some time! Once having ousted her fantasies and when she realized that she rather provoked a depressed reaction on my side than an outrage, I was totally surprised how she kept pushing on with her ”ideas” with great stubbornness…to let them finally become reality! Only later Claudia admitted that she would not have had dared to ever tell me again her fantasies, would I have reacted outraged. But my reaction obviously boosted her self-confidence to try to let her fantasies come somehow true and not to bury them under feelings of shame and guilt. From this point onwards something changed between us: From day to day she showed more and more openly her interest in Thai men …obviously interpreting my embarrassing helplessness to cope with the situation as silent consent (…which it was not!). There was less and less hiding of her sexual desires and no more false excuses for me…

I do not like to reveal all the details, they are embarrassing and I know, a lot of farang and Thai guys will laugh at me, when reading this report. Anyway, after a week or so she was mentally ready to make an approach. Claudia persuaded me to join her out to some boys bars, ..driven by her desire, but still hesitating. After long lasting and luring eye-contact with young Thai guys, it seemed to me that they quicky understood, what the young farang lady was after but were irritated by my presence. I hated it to see all this youngster queuing for Claudia and asked myself, if they are more greedy for her body or our holiday bugdet. It took two or three nights more and instinctively we both new that my “escorting her” had became obsolete. She finally became confident enough to roam alone, but always came back early.

It was some days later, when she got a call on her mobile while we were spending the afternoon at our hotel pool at the Golden Palace Hotel, off Sukhumvit Road in Bangkok. She became very exited…and after a while asked me into my face, if I can live with the fact that she intends to date a Thai boy that night, whom she met a night before. I was very jealous but I saw in her eyes how extremely exited she was to date the guy and we both knew well…tonight it will be for paid sex. I asked her ’Claudia, are you really sure…?!’ She swallowed and nodded silently and said ‘Rainer….it has nothing to do with you….it is simply…’.

She intended to take the Thai boy out for some romantic dinner and then come back to the Golden Palace Hotel. She as well as I felt more secure to let it happen in our place, rather then in some unknown seedy place. At the Golden Palace Hotel we were sure that outward guests are all registered, when staying in a guest’s room. On the one hand Claudia wanted to have her first experience with a young Thai stranger in secure, comfortable and familiar surroundings, but on the other hand, she wanted me to be safely excluded and not to spoil in any way what was meant to be her perfect sex. (Later she admitted that she was at this time very insecure, if I, in the end, would not lose my temper and do something stupid, respectively totally freak out in the hotel floors once after I have realised that she is naked on the sheets with the Thai guy!). Strange enough, instead of my burning jealousy, I simply assured her that I will respect her privacy…probably instinctively sensing that my girlfriend was expecting me to no longer be an obstacle to her very special sexual desire. I surrendered to the inevitable situation and hoped all will be fast forgotten after a one night stand, what will hopefully satisfy her desire for good.

Before she went out that evening Claudia rented a second room on another floor for the remaining time in Bangkok without revealing the room number to me. Later that night we left together the Golden Palace Hotel, turned from Soi 1 on to the Sukhumvit Road. In a pharmacy near Siam Square Claudia bought the obligatory condoms. A guy at the counter gave us a dirty smile and said in bad English: “You have fun…!” I thought desperately jealous ‘….for some lucky Thai penis!’ We stepped out into the warm air of a busy Bangkok night.

She checked again nervously her own room key, and the condoms in her handbag.  There was something like a ‘oohh, please understand!’ in her eyes when she hugged me and gave me a hasty kiss. Then we separated. ‘There goes my girl, ‘… to meet her date…,’ I thought.

I sat frustrated in one of the cinema complexes at Siam Square and then spent a poor night in an empty double-bed, not daring to imagine what was happening behind one of the doors on an upper floor. I never asked my girlfriend what she paid for the ‘service’ she received. (Claudia remained silent on those nights and I finally respected her privacy).

After a sleepless night, I went down to the breakfast room and passed by the reception. The two Chinese guys of the night shift saw me approaching stopped immediately talking and were extremly polite to me, but when I just left the reception on to the yard they started giggling and I had the suspicion they were amusing themselves on my expense.

I entered the breakfast room and saw Claudia with her new lover at a table. I will never forget how pleased and satisfied she looked, when our eyes first met incidentally. The very attentive Thai guy next to her was relatively tall. I remember how his black hair fall over his forehead and covered one of his eyes.  The other one was aggressively watching me.

They let me approach, looked at each other, then Claudia and the Thai gave me a humiliating smile and invited me to join breakfast at their table. The young Thai was clever enough to immediately exploit my insecurity and weakness, when he touched my girlfriend openly in front of me and watched her enjoying his hand on her naked leg. He managed to shatter the rest of my self-confidence and within hours he suffocated my last resistance. What I hoped to be a forgettable one night stand turned out to become a take over of my girl for the remaining holidays. He made it absolutely clear that he would stay in the ‘driver’s seat’ for the rest of our holidays, having good sex and being paid for it by a farang girl! On the other hand I understood from Claudia that she somehow enjoyed the macho-behaviour of her non-western exotic lover and
that the Thai showed no respect whatsoever for the fact that I had been her boyfriend for so many years. Claudia spoke to me for a long time and tried to convince me that it is really only a sex affair with the Thai. She tried to comfort me but was also clear that he will bed her exclusively.  Eventually I retreated fearing to lose my girl and his aggressivness towards me decreased.

The winner takes it all!

Later I assisted Claudia to move her remaining cloths from our room to her new room. The Thai was in the bathroom showering.  I saw his and her cloth scattered all over the carpet, the toilette paper on the side table and the bed sheets in total disorder. I remember how I swallowed and until today I  imagine how they undressed, how he got on top of her and started thrusting my moaning girl.

It happened all so fast that after the holiday I was emotionally struggling for a long time. After our return Claudia did not cheat on me and proved that she was, after all, only interested in hot sex with a young Asian. Occasionally she still sends him some money, but I can live with this.  Today I am still together with Claudia and we have engaged. We are honest enough to each other to accept that she will go out again to look for a suitable partner, if we ever go to Thailand again.

Apart from trying to start a discussion on the subject of female sex tourism in Thailand it is for me important to send this report to all those, who still believe that:

1.  Asian guys are unable to satisfy farang ladies because of their again and again repeated “myth of smaller penis size” ,

2.  who still believe that women sexuality is restricted to certain pattern /  types. Claudia overcame her shyness…and finally did only that openly, what many girls, housewives, etc. might secretly think: To enjoy a tropical night with a perfect lover with no regrets.


175 thoughts on “Female sex tourism in Thailand: My girlfriend had paid sex with a Thai boy”

  1. The funniest thing about this silly little saga is that that his girlfriend HAD TO PAY TO HAVE SEX with some other guy. In any normal situation it’s the guy who always pays but if you are in Thailand, well, things are different here. Once again the Thai comes out on top laughing at the stupidity of a foreigner and this also proves that, when it comes to a foreigner having sex with a Thai, it isn’t anything special, or altruistic, it’s just about the money, money, money…….

    Can we put this pathetic little saga to bed please. It’s a fxxking embarrasment to a foreigner.

  2. Gee, Rainer, how can you swallow that!

    I as a girl will never ever cheat on my guy. It is absurd enough to cheat on you behind your back, let alone do it openly!
    I don’t understand how you can let it rest. Aren’t guys supposed to be egoistic and full of pride?
    Perhaps, you are just being understanding and choose your girl over your pride. But if there’s once, there will be twice. Who knows which country the next guy will be from?
    No offence, Rainer, but you’re being stupid. If she loves you she wouldn’t have done that to you. It is bad enough that she slept with another man with you knowing, she even humiliated you the next day and openly let him touch her legs…Gosh, how can you let it pass!

    On a side note, women who cheat can never be forgiven but the same goes for men! Once you cheat, the relationship is scarred.

  3. Yo Rainer,
    glaub ich nicht, kannst du überhaupt deutsch?

    So the way i see it:
    There´s 3 possible 4 ways to look at it:
    1. Your some soft dude who got his feelings hurt by thai prostitutes and since your soft you made up the story hoping that some thai chick will read this and will hook up with you and mother you since she couldnt handle the industry either but cant do anything else but try to get some supporting farang since the industry is a 1 way ticket.
    (wake up that won´t happen)

    2.your an thai/asian guy reading all those racist stories of western assholes braging about how they abuse financially depending women. like the bimbos bitches and ….. author.
    anyone in that sex industry developes “inflated egos”
    i mean dude is the perfect counterpart to a “bimbo”. he couldnt pull that behaviour on chicks not being whores and he knows it, hides it deep inside and spends all his money on that fantasy sex tourism sells so well.
    You trying to tease those by writing here.

    3. Your story actually happened. And you are some sort of masochist and did get off on having been humiliated by your chick. you get the kicks out of reading comments humiliating you even more.
    Admit it to yourself and have a wank. you will feel better after. and future holiday options might include jamaika and so on

    4. you got that sort of sad humor to “trick those morons” with your story. “they bought it ahahhaaaa, they sooo dumb…”
    yeah, you pwn hard. have a wank.

  4. @ingz: Danke für die “Analyse….”. Das ein junger Thai-Bock mir frech meine Freundin abgenommen hat und sich auch noch dafür bezahlen lassen hat, wird mich auch nach 10 Jahren und länger rasend eifersüchtig machen und was ich hier mache ist meine Art mit dem Thema fertig zu werden. Deshalb muß ich noch lange kein Masochist sein. Ich denke es wird sicher weitere Paare geben, den ähliches zustößt und wo die Dame nicht widerstehen kann und ein exotischer Liebhaber zum Zug kommt. Die Frage ist nur, wenn die Beziehung ohenhin nicht scheitert,….wer gibt es öffentlich zu, gerade dann, wenn der Liebhaber auch noch ein Asiate war, die (unberechtiger Weise, wie ich erfahren mußte) in den westlichen Medien als weniger männlich dargestellt werden.

  5. Rainer

    I get the feeling that even though you felt hurt and jealous you actually ended up being turned on as well and now keep reliving the delicious agony of having seen your girlfriend allow her inner animal urges get the better of her and her natural cuckold instincts to take over and to just enjoy herself fully by feeding what was obviously a deep seated fantasy of hers, that is to throw herself at an exotic stranger and to show you how she enjoys it too.

    I can well imagine if you offered to allow her to have strange men while you watch that she will jump at the opportunity and will enjoy the power trip of knowing you are watching and are actually turned on whist suffering the humiliation and jealousy. I also think you would love to see your woman cuckold you again and are reliving the experience through us.

    It is a normal reaction, some men are naturally cuckold and get off on the experience, embrace it, enjoy it and be greatfull you have a partner into the same lifestyle as you. Just be safe!!!

  6. I don’t understand why you didn’t just leave her and bang a bunch of bargirls while she was being a slut.

  7. He is really a cuckold. She will be doing this to him after they are married. She enjoyed the humilation that he had to go thru. As I’m sure he did also because no man could really stand to watch his girl fuck another man and say nothing.

  8. If it really bothered you as much as you claim, then your ‘fiance’ would know this and not care. You are a door mat. Enjoy being married. You will be her bitch and all your children will be fathered by other men.

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  10. Rainer,
    You were cuckolded by Claudia. She put you in your place by humiliating you with her Thai boy. To write about it and post it only reinforces the notion that you enjoyed being put in this position. Clearly, as you did not attempt to stop it. In fact actively encouraged it by accompanying her to the Thai boy bars.
    Are you a secret tv or cross dresser? Would you like to be dominated?
    You need to assess your sexuality.

  11. I am a Thai Man living in Australia.

    Well, it was all started by you Mr. Rainer.
    Both you and your girl friend are sick.

    And I am sorry !!!as you piont out that .”Asian guys are unable to satisfy farang ladies because of their again and again repeated “myth of smaller penis size” ,

    I am not small.!!! Haaa haaa I could be much bigger than you.

  12. Who said penis size is important? All women in the US and most women in Europe claim in their studies that size does not matter!!!

    If you believe the above, then you will believe that Thai men and Thai women do not cheat “almost” all the time!

  13. wtf is wrong with you? Kick her stupid ass out of your life…the siully cunt can never be trusted and is bobviously a sick minded skank. Mna up.

  14. Dude, Reiner, why did you not hook up with some thai man then? And if she really had sex, why did not have you. And lastly, this is the only girl you ever had. If I were you I would have got rid of some such a girl. You will always be her scapegoat for her. If you ask me, I do not even let my girlfriend make male friends, or often talk to another guy. Now I am a real man, but you need to be a man too , I am sorry.

  15. oh, tough story.
    I hope you soon find the force to break up with this girl. Never too late for that.
    Clearly the only reasonable choice. But I admit reason is difficult to bring in such a situation.

    Or maybe you dumped her (or got dumped) allready?

  16. How horrible and cruel! This woman is not only unfaithful but emotionally
    abusive. Plus, no matter how careful she is, her fun with male prostitutes could give YOU an STD. Do yourself. a favor and leave her.

  17. @Bibiana: I cannot leave her and we got married anyway. We know about the risks of STD and she takes care that the young asians she meets use condoms…

  18. Hi Rainer

    It is crazy how so many people want to judge the way you live your life and feel their way is the only way. Each one has their definition of what being a man is from abuse to just being a total wanker. What they seem to miss is that being a man is being there for your woman and treating her well and not having to try and prove what a big guy you are.

    It seems you and your wife have decided to make a regular thing of being with the Asian guys now as she obviously gets a tremendous thrill out of being with other men, knowing that you know and are probably watching while she is with another man and she obviously has a fetish for Asian men. I say well done that you love her so much and trust her so much that you have the confidence to allow her to play and to enjoy her desires and needs so much.

    I am sure that you must also get turned on knowing she is enjoying herself and giving herself to another man but still comes home with love in her eyes for only you. Well done and enjoy the amazing times you and your wife will have together.

    If you want to chat about it off site then let me know and we can swop mail addresses.

  19. KATOOM: “I say well done that you love her so much and trust her so much that you have the confidence to allow her to play and to enjoy her desires and needs so much”

    Idealistic nonsense that has no place in Thailand. The only thing the Thai GIGILO care’s about is how much he’s getting paid for servicing Rainers wife. The question might be asked, “who’s providing the money for her to indulge her fetish?” One day you will get it. Thai hookers and gigilo’s couldn’t give a shit about the feelings of their customers. They’re just lumps of meat that provide income for them to support their families and their lifestyle.

    You are fool and so is Rainer and this thread is a joke but keep it coming please because it’s providing great entertainment for those of us who live in Thailand and are no longer wearing the rose tinted glasses.

  20. Somehow I still do not believe this is a true case. I am unable to phantom a guy/girl who would accept this kind of behavior. IF this is true, then I am not to believe that his now wife loves him nor care for him, she only gets off by humiliating her now husband. This is not a matter of two people loving each other, this is a matter of an abusive woman and an insecure man or a matter of a co-dependent unhealthy abnormal relationship, and that is how I see it…Your mileage WILL vary….One day I guarantee this poster will wake up!

  21. Hey Mega

    Maybe try reading my comments again and realise that I never said this was about the “gigilo” at all. Just as Rainer and his wife are a means to an end for him, so is he to them. What they are doing, that is either the “hotwife” or “cuckold” game play makes the specific person they use to enjoy their kinks and fun irrelevant. They could pick up a guy in a German pub in Hamburg or a Thai guy in Bangkok and there is no difference except for the particular aspect that his wife seems to have a thing for Asian guys. More than likely the Asian guy was their first time into the hotwife game and now they discovered that they enjoy their little kink they pick up guys in their home town in Germany but go for the Asian looking guys.

    This is all about the thrill and the excitement of it and they don’t care about the specific person they use for their games. Open your eyes and your mind mate, you say you live in Thailand, then you should be aware of and used to the very large amount of different fetishes and kinks people as individuals and couples like to indulge in and who are we to critisize any person for their specific kink. We all have a kink of some sort and what makes us better than others.

    If this is all a fantasy of his, well then I hope he has a good wank over it. Many, many couples have played this game in reality and for most it is extremely enjoyable.

    And ye, I do not wear rose tinted glasses mate. I have been travelling the world for 30 years including the so called sex capitals of the original Bugis Street in Singapore, Amsterdam, Thailand, Hamburg and Bremmehaven both as a merchant marine sailor and as a business man in my later years and I have covered most of Africa, Middle East, Europe, the States and been to Australia. Been there, seen that, done it and wiped my arse with the t-shirt.

    Rainer, again I say these people do not understand what it is you and you wife get out of this and that is why they so judgemental, play safe and have fun.

  22. Hey Katoom:

    Yes, you are right. I’ve never really understood what the almost abnormal preoccupation with wierd sex is with Germans. Do you live unfulfilled, boring, urban lives and is your escape from your mundane existences your kinky fetishes. I’ve lived in Thailand for 18 years and I’ve been there, done that and got the T-shirt but guess what? sex aint no big deal mate. As Dr Spock famously said “I could never understand the human preoccupation with what is just a physical act” I see it all the time, people trying to fill in a blank in their lives the need to ejaculate or orgasm. So, what’s Rainers wifes blank? Well it’s this; she wants to be fxxked by some young, fit guy who can get it up regularly. Looks as though Rainer isn’t filling that blank otherwise she wouldn’t be paying some guy to do it for her. Perhaps Rainer prefers jacking off while watching someone else fxxk his wife. Where I come from that’s pretty damn sad. Even sadder if he’s got to pay for it to happen lol. But hey, maybe in Germany that’s what gets people off.

    BTW, I’ve been to most those flesh pots you mentioned, and a few more I could add in as well, and guess what? Those places are largely filled with the trash of humanity.

    One last word: Rainer, get a fxxking life mate. Seriously.


  23. many german go to thailand for easy and cheap sex and many foreigners go to germany and find many women who offer sex for free….
    is just a question of style……look for easy and dont see what is better and complimentary in front of you


  25. Sorry, but the way you act i can understand she cheated… You are a total whimp. Letting het humiliate you like that. Did she do anything when it was clear this Thai guy was humiliating you? Did she care about your feelings at that moment? No she didn`t… You deserve all this. You should have been strong and told her fuck you right in her face leave her and fuck a thai girl. Being a whimp like that, of course she`ll cheat on you… you have to man up and get stronger.

  26. We have a saying in the US, “is he gay or just european?” You’re just a pathetic cuckold. What a fucked up story!

  27. I am sorry….I don’t like so much to use the word “fuck” make me feel like that have sex is for underdeveloped people
    I am sure that you can use better words….

  28. If that were my G/F on vacation with me, and she rented a separate hotel room to fuck male prostitutes in… I would definitely have stolen her passport / ID / Bank Cards and left her there to fend for herself. What she did to you was beyond humiliating.

  29. Dude, hats down to your patience and your true love with her which still stops you to be apart from here.
    I can never tolerate this, its is so disgusting.

    Mujtaba Brohi

  30. Honestly i have never seen a thai having sex, but some women told me that they have sex ….in and out, in and out , in and out, just like sewing machine….I guess
    than a dildo can make better work hahahaha

  31. if a farang women has paid to have sex with thai man, I know one milion of farangs who have paid to have sex with thai women…besides may be farang woman has paid for charity….or may be thai boy asked for money same as beggars on the streets

  32. Well Rainer, I don’t really understand why you were spending your time in a movie distressed while your girl friend banging a random Thai dude, rather than having fun with sexy Thai chicks outside. Come on man, Thailand is for men. I really felt sad about you when I finished reading it. Dude a girl like Claudia doesn’t deserve a guy like you man. If I were you I’ll break up with her immediately and go bang some Thai chicks the moment she said she want to have sex with a Thai dude, I won’t care if she does it with 10 Thais at once..I don’t give a fuck..
    You are too good for her mate, too good

  33. I have been asked again and again, why I did let it happen that my girlfriend (…now wife) did what she did. A discussion with a member of my yahoo group about possible pregnancy of my wife has let me come to the conlusion it is time to reveal a point, which might help to understand why all went the way it did and a young asian had and easy game when challenging me. I am a sterile male caused by testicles which were not descended during my childhood. I am well able to satisfy a woman as it has nothing to do with been an eunuch. But on an emotional level I am lacking self-confidence in my manhood,….thus the young thai had not to meet a big resistance…

  34. Dude,

    this sounds way more offensive then intended but…

    She fucked that guy, because he’s a guy. You obviously lack some balls. Not really any ethnic matter here.

  35. So you let your now wife have sex to get pregnant? by a Thai man no less? who according to statistics, many carry the aids virus? ( NOT all Thais do, Only high risk sexual prostitutes) or because YOU can’t get her pregnant? So now what are you going to do? keep getting other guys to pork your wife to get her pregnant or to satisfy your fetsih? You are really having fun with us because I still believe this is all a hoax!

  36. sounds like a film from “PASOLINI”…..
    well, thai ma with farang woman cen be a tasty cappuccino!!!!!!!
    funny and boring story!!!!
    about aids, may be without us soldiers coming from Vietnam to Thailand (including black soldiers with huge cocks), there could be much much lesst to worry about it….thai women are very very clean, usually never allow a man to have sex without a big shower before.
    I dont really believe in aids so much, is just a termonology for blood disease which always existed under other name and believe me, if you go with very clean partners, you dont have to fear it….ladyboys permitting….

  37. i can’t believe it..you are such a jackass my friend…your girlfriend openly fucked a thai guy and humiliated you the next day…c’mon man wake up…either you are making up this story or you are not a man enough to take a gentleman’s action and that is KICK HER ASS OUT OF YOUR LIFE….dude do something because old habit die hard…she is bound to fuck some random guy at sometime later in future from some random country and what you gonna do? again write such lengthy article? wake up my friend…do sth

  38. Now you got an excuse to sleep with any woman you want. Each time you’re going to cheat you just let her know and remind her that you have made a sacrifice back in days and she should understand that you need to fullfill your fantaisies.

  39. yes…and may she also will fillfull her fantasy with some other thai guys and start to like more than you think….”degustibus non disputandom est”
    it is latin language…….try to find out what does it mean

  40. ….what is funny about all this, is that still exist somebody who believe in such
    meaningless story and even if true, i dont see where is the problem……

  41. Oh my, being a female this makes me laugh. Sure women have fantasies like men about fucking exotic people however fantasy and reality. If this is a true story, ranier really, your cool with your chick paying for sex,? Sorry. Your relationship may have honesty and patience but you lack in the bed. Women tend to cheat on shitty lovers. If your what she wants then she would be only with you. Grow some, and find a woman who respects you and respect yourself. Unless it is an open relationship? You better get some hot tail yourself and go with your own kind, its much hotter and will piss her of and i mean by kind, your own ethnicity.

  42. women who use words like “fuck” and “piss” same as last longshoreman, cannot give lesson of morality to anybody.

  43. sigh, how could you swallow that man..
    get this straight, yr wife cheated on you.. you wouldnt know how many boys she had sex with..

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